Isn't honestly always the best policy?
I absolutely hate it when my friends beat around the bush when delivering good or bad news.
Just rip off the Band-Aid off. Eat the sword. Bite the bullet!
However, this isn't always the case for many people. They usually feel hurt whenever I get too honest with them – because I am that straightforward friend who believes honesty is the best policy.
These are the four struggles every straightforward friend can relate to.
1. People will hate you for being frank
There are times our friends ask us for our opinions and we just can't hold back our honest thoughts, even though we know they desperately need our support.
Them: "How does this sweater look?"
"DO I LOOK GOOD WITH SHORT HAIR?"
Sorry, we are just realists at heart. When we see something that doesn't suit you, we are always dying to tell you. We know you hate our blunt comments, but we just can't help it. We only want the best for you, but if you still hate us for it, we find that hard to deal with.
Why should you hate someone who has your back?
2. Filters are not our friends
Being frank normally entails having no filter.
Them: "I just got a new haircut, it's a slick back do! Thoughts?"
Us: "You look like you went for a swim and a fish is trying to swallow your head, but it got stuck."
"THIS BLOUSE WAS ON SALE AND I JUST HAD TO BUY IT! I LOOK FINEEE RIGHT?"
Us: "Yeah, you look fine. If you are going for that 'Someone who makes their living by selling their bodies' kind of look."
Now this you can hate. No one should be so rude. If we are stepping out of line, feel free to tell us. We will try to tone down.
3. Coming across as arrogant
When we try to tell someone to do something, normal people will ask nicely.
Them: "I don't know, why don't we try it this way instead, and see which method works best?"
But straightforward people tend to be harsher and too much of a know-it-all.
Them: "Did you know Queen Elizabeth was trained to a driver and mechanic during World War II?"
Them: "Did you know that Queen Elizabeth is now the longest reigning British monarch?"
Them: "Did you know..."
"...THAT YOU BINGED-WATCHED THE CROWN ON NETFLIX OVER THE WEEKEND? YUP."
We aren't actually trying to be a prick, we just don't see the point in continuing the conversation.
So tell me something I don't know already. #sorry #notsorry
4. Not feeling intimidated by anyone
Most of you might be wondering how not being afraid of anyone is a bad thing. Well, it is, because when our group of friends get in trouble with people of authority, we just don't seem to know our place.
Teacher: "Why are you guys eating in the class room?"
Us: "Oh, I am sorry. But I am pretty sure we have the right to eat!"
Teacher: "Oh, yes, it is. And I also have the right to throw all of you out of class."
"WHAT?! IF SOMEONE IS RUDE TO ME, I AM GOING TO BE RUDE AS WELL!"
That said, I sincerely apologise to all my friends for the times I got them into unnecessary trouble.
And I hope reading this have made you understand my straightforward side a little better.
PHOTO CREDITS: YOUTH.SG/ANGELA OUYANG