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Getting engaged after dating for weeks

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Ariana Grande's recent engagement to Pete Davidson sparks debate about how long a couple should date before popping the question.

Getting engaged after a short period of dating seems to be the latest trend. 

More celebrity couples have been getting engaged after a brief phase of dating. Take for example American reality star Josiah Duggar, who dated Lauren Swanson for six weeks before they decided to tie the knot in March. 

Fresh to join the party are Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson, who got engaged after dating for less than a month, sparking debate about the appropriate period of time to date before marriage.

What's going on?

In May, both Ariana and Pete were reported to have split from their respective long-term partners. In the same month, they started dating and confirmed their engagement on June 20.

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The 24-year-olds have not been shy in showing off their newfound love.
PHOTO CREDIT: ARIANA GRANDE'S INSTAGRAM ACCOUNT

In the weeks leading up to Pete's confirmation of their engagement, the Internet has been rife with netizens talking about their fast-paced relationship.

Natasha Ramli, who is waiting to enter university, acknowledges that it may be easy to lose sight of reason when one is infatuated, and believes there are many factors to consider before getting engaged.

Currently in a four year relationship, the 19-year-old said: "I believe it takes two years for a couple to know each other thoroughly and figure out if you're willing to live with each other's flaws for the rest of your lives."

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Some feel that such a brief period of dating is not adequate enough to get to know the other person.
PHOTO CREDIT: YOUTH.SG/NATHALIE D'SOUZA

She added that relatives also play a part in the long run.

"It's also important to get to know and be comfortable with each other's families before getting engaged. Once you marry a person, you're marrying their family as well," said Natasha.

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Netizens feel that it is tricky for couples, who get engaged so fast, to work out their relationship in the long run.
PHOTO CREDIT: FB SCREENSHOT

Likewise, Ibrahim Mazeen Muneez, who is single, is skeptical of the prospects of such quick engagements.

The 20-year-old Republic Polytechnic student said: "I feel that is too fast, honestly. It screams desperation and when people are desperate, they never really think about their actions, how it would affect them in the long run, and whether it would really work out in the end."

On the other hand, some do not see a problem with a brief dating phase before engagement.

"If you see a future with the person and if the person is financially stable, and able to support you and a family, go for it," said Soh Li Shen, 20, who is waiting to enlist for National Service.

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Some netizens think that if the couple have been friends prior to going out, it's okay to get engaged after a short duration of dating.
PHOTO CREDIT: FB SCREENSHOT

Similarly, online shop owner Wu Wai Teng, 26, feels that as long as both parties are ready, they can get engaged as soon as they want.

The mother of three, who got married at 21, said: "No relationship should be judged. As long as you think it's right for you, why not?"

What's your take?

1. What's an acceptable dating period before getting engaged to someone? Why?

BANNER AND TEASER PHOTO CREDIT: YOUTH.SG/ NATHALIE D'SOUZA