Here's how you can help your sensitive friend without offending them.
I've been sensitive, if not, overly sensitive all my life.
On the outside, we may look like we're an emotional wreck. However, there is a scientific reasoning behind this. Highly sensitive people tend to have a more developed nervous system. This means more blood flows to the parts of the brain associated with emotion.
In other words, highly sensitive people feel more than they should. In fact, we tend to feel other people's pain more than our own. We react very strongly in most situations and we struggle to explain our emotions to others.
While I completely understand that we need make adjustments to our emotions, I also feel that it's important for everyone else to accommodate us as well.
Here's how you can deal with highly sensitive people.
1. Let us have our time alone
Since sensitive people spend a lot of their time being emotional for others, the time we spend alone is valuable to us. It helps us to recharge and reflect on our emotions.
So, please don't think that we are pushing you away when we want to be alone. We're just trying to manage and understand our own emotions.
WE JUST WANT TO BE ALONE SOMETIMES, IT'S NOTHING PERSONAL.
2. Don't tell us we are taking things personally
Sensitive people are generally more emotional. We simply respond based on our emotions. Telling us that we are taking things too personally will only make us more emotional than we already are.
This is especially true when the people dear to us react negatively towards the things we work hard on for them.
For example, if we stayed up all night bake you a cake, tell us you that love it…even if it's burnt on the bottom and undercooked on the top.
3. We're not the best when it comes to drinking
Needless to say, we're emotional drinkers. We know how to have fun, but if you push the wrong buttons, you're doomed.
My advice is to be careful when it comes to drinking, and NEVER bring up sensitive topics like past relationships and unexpected weight gain.
TRY YOUR BEST TO NOT BRING UP SENSITIVE TOPICS. IF YOU DO, GOOD LUCK.
It's for the best, for both of us.
4. Respect our beliefs
We're passionate about the causes we believe in and we have strong views about it. Our reactions tend to mirror our emotions, so it won't be hard to tell if you have pushed the wrong buttons.
Many times, it may seem like we're over-reacting, but that is because we're reacting the only way we know how to.
In this situation, your best bet would be to carefully tell your friend to calm down.
5. Always show them that you care
This one speaks for itself.
As a sensitive person, I always wonder if I'll come off as overwhelming when I offload my feelings onto someone. One thing that really helps is when people show that they really care.
One way you can do this by telling them that you're only just a phone call away, or a shoulder to lean on. Trust me, it works.
ALWAYS SHOW SOME CONCERN, IT'S THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO.
Not only will we feel more comfortable with you, but we will respect and trust you more.