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When parents are too strict, it’s just tough for everyone.

It's a blessing to have parents who care for our well-being; but when parents are over-protective, is it still a blessing?

Here are some stories about parents who show their love in ways we might not fully agree with.

Jacelyn Tan, 22, Student

I have very minimal freedom when it comes to staying out, and it's absurd because I'm already over 21, which supposedly means adulthood.

I still have curfews and my parents still expect me to be home before 12am. That means no partying and no staying over, no matter what.

Once, I went for a friend's birthday party, and I'd made sure to inform my parents that I will be home late. The party ended past midnight, and a close friend offered to send some of us home.

Imagine my surprise and sheer mortification when we arrived at my block and the whole family was waiting for me at the void deck! 


IT WAS ALSO NORMAL TO SEE FAMILY MEMBERS WAITING FOR ME AT THE BUS STOP.

My dad looked like he was ready to murder someone. 

Darren Liew, 23, Student

My parents were really big on discipline.

When I was in primary school, my mum used to give us a time limit to finish our meals – 30 minutes; no more, no less.


ALL OUR MEALS USED TO BE TIMED.

To ensure that we kept to the time, she would wind up a kitchen timer before each of our meals. Food that did not make it into our stomachs will end up in the bin after the given time.

Fortunately, this stopped when I went to secondary school.

Oh, and I'm now one of the fastest eaters in my group of friends.

Jerisa Tan, 20, Student

No showy clothes. No short shorts. No make-up.

Everything that is normal for a teenage girl was forbidden by my parents.

Being young and really rebellious, I did not keep to their strict rules. I still wore and did what I wanted… on the sly.


I WAS ALWAYS ASKED TO WEAR ANOTHER LAYER.

Over time, I became really good at hiding things from them.

You may have heard that strict parents produce great liars? It's true; at least for me.

Derlyn Chua, 21, Student

Before I went to university, my parents were really particular about who I mixed around with in school.

I literally had to "apply" to hang out with my friends outside of school hours. My mum made it clear that she needs to know my plans at least two weeks in advance, and that was not equivalent to an approval.

If my "application" did get approved, mum would need a list of the friends I'd be hanging out with and their contact details. 


BESIDES CONTACT DETAILS, I ALSO HAD TO INCLUDE THE MEETING TIMINGS.
POSED PHOTO: YOUTH.SG/POON CHENG EE

My parents have relaxed the rules these days, but I'm still expected to update them daily on my whereabouts. And sometimes, they do random spot checks by calling me.