Can you still be nice without appearing fake?
You might have encountered this peculiar dilemma a couple of times before. You are often worried that if you are "too nice" to the people you dislike, it may come off as fake or pretentious to them.
People may doubt your intentions when you are too nice to them.
To this day, many continue to endure this awkward situation by putting on a front in fear of ruining their relationships. The fine line between staying genuine and remaining cordial is not as clear-cut as you want it to be.
There are many factors to consider when deliberating about the appropriate course of action in these situations. With there being fine lines between staying genuine and remaining cordial, everything may not seem as clear-cut as you may want it to be.
Here are three things you can do to avoid being seen as "too nice":
1. Always stay true to your feelings
You should be as genuine as you possibly can. It's okay to be straightforward with your opinions as long as it can help to add value to the lives of others.
No means no.
If you disapprove of someone's behaviour and feel that it is necessary to voice it out, don't be afraid of telling them. It is better for them to know and improve on their self-awareness than remain oblivious to their actions.
2. Don't let your fear of being judged make you suppress your opinions
Nice people also have opinions. Be daring to voice them out!
Be bold and confident in what you believe in. Practice what you preach and stay true to yourself and to the people around you.
Many appreciate people who can be honest and straightforward, and you will be respected for daring to air your thoughts.
3. Be as honest as possible
If your friend asks for your opinion on an issue they are struggling with, you may feel that it is better to avoid telling them the truth or even lie to them about it. I strongly discourage this approach as it can make you seem like a phony.
Ultimately, there is a thin line between being too nice and being fake, with the most prominent difference coming from whether your intentions are good.
It doesn't matter as long as you know your true intentions.
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However, always think beforehand about your actions and its potential consequences. As the saying goes, "the road to Hell is paved with good intentions."